WhAcKiEr ThAn A cOcOnUt: brashblacknonbeliever: With Father’s day fast approaching, I would...

brashblacknonbeliever:

With Father’s day fast approaching, I would like to send a shout out to the people typically ignored on days like this:

• To the people with abusive fathers
• To the people absentee fathers
• To the people who don’t know their fathers
• To the people who cut their…

We’re not ignored. It’s father’s day, not sons’ and daughters’ day. There is something rather wonderful about not having a dad, you make up your own, based on other dads, and that’s actually pretty cool. I make up my dad with the dad that was too strict on his two older sons, who then melts whenever his youngest, his daughter, asks him for anything; you get the dad that wakes up his daughter every saturday with breakfast; or the dad that decides that this year he wants to start his day dining out; or the dad that tolerates his daughter making fun of him constantly (I don’t really agree with that, but he loves her, and that’s all that matters); you also get those dads that don’t really know how to ask something, so they go with their daughters to therapy, to ask awkward questions the best way they can; you get to see fathers that are there every Christmas for your cousins, and even take you home whenever you go out, who are sort of your dad for a while. We may not have a specific dad, but that doesn’t mean we have nothing to celebrate. Today I celebrate all those dads who do their best, to raise their children, who try to be there in the best way they can, who tuck you in when you go to bed, and make you feel safe. To all those dads who didn’t make it to father’s day, and those who are still here but are far away from your families. To all father figures, whether it’s fathers, uncles, or godfathers, today I celebrate you. Happy father’s day!